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Life isn’t the sweetest candy. Sometimes, when I feel like the world is just too heavy, I look around and find people who continued to live fascinating and wonderful lives. And then thoughts come popping into my mind like bubbles from nowhere – “How did their life become so adorably sweet? How come they still can manage to laugh and play around despite a busy stressful life?”  Then I pause and observed for awhile… I figured out that maybe, they start to work on a place called ‘self’.

So, how does one become genuinely happy? Step 1 is to love yourself.

My theology professor once said that “loving means accepting.”  To love oneself means to accept that you are not a perfect being, but behind the imperfections must lie a great ounce of courage to be able to discover ways on how to improve your repertoire to recover from our mistakes.

Genuine happiness also pertains to contentment. When you are contented with the job you have, the way you look, with your family, your friends, the place you live in, your car, and all the things you now have – truly, you know the answer to the question “how to be genuinely happy.”

When we discover a small start somewhere from within, that small start will eventually lead to something else, and to something else. But if you keep questioning life lit it has never done you any good, you will never be able to find genuine happiness.

I believe that life is about finding out about right and wrong, trying and failing, wining and losing. These are things that happen as often as you inhale and exhale. Failure, in a person’s life has become as abundant and necessary as air. But this should not hinder us from becoming happy.

How to be genuinely happy in spite all these? I tell you… every time you exert effort to improve the quality of life and your being, whether it is cleaning up your room, helping a friend, taking care of your sick dog, fail on board exams and trying again, life gives you equivalent points for that.

Imagine life as a big score board like those which are used in the NFLs. Every time you take a step forward, you make scoring points. Wouldn’t it be nice to look at that board at the end of each game and think to yourself “Whew! I got a point today. I’m glad I gave it a shot.”, instead of looking at it all blank and murmur “Geez, I didn’t even hit a score today. I wish I had the guts to try out. We could have won!” and then walk away.

Genuine happiness isn’t about driving the hottest Formula 1 car, nor getting the employee of the year award, earning the highest 13th month pay, or beating the sales quota. Sometimes, the most sought after prizes in life doesn’t always go to the fastest, the strongest, the bravest or not even the best. So, how do you become genuinely happy?  Every one has his own definition of ‘happiness’. Happiness for a writer may mean launching as much best selling books as possible. Happiness for a basketball rookie may mean getting the rookie of the year award. Happiness for a beggar may mean a lot of money. Happiness for a business man may mean success. So, really now, how do we become genuinely happy? Simple. You don’t have to have the best things in this world. Its about doing and making the best out of every single thing. When you find yourself smiling at your own mistake and telling your self “Oh, I’ll do better next time”, you carry with you a flame of strong will power to persevere that may spread out like a brush fire. You possess a willingness to stand up again and try – that will make you a genuinely happy person.

When you learn to accept yourself and your own faults. You pass step 1 in the project “how to become genuinely happy”.For as long as you know how to accept others, you will also be accepted. For as long as you love and know how to love, you will receive love ten folds back.

Again, throw me that same question “how to become genuinely happy?”. I’ll refer you to a friend of mine who strongly quoted- “Most of us know that laughter is the best medicine to life’s aches and pain. But most of us don’t know that the best kind of laughter is laughter over self. Coz then you don’t just become happy… you become free.”

Relationships of all kinds are often perceived as very delicate things, that require extra effort to maintain. However, a relationship can also be something that can provide security and can also be long lasting despite many trials.

Building an effective and lasting relationships is a necessity for several reasons. For example in a group or organization, the well being of the people depends on how efficient and effective that group or organization works.

The group or organization is also dependent on how the members work well with the management.

An ineffective group or organization can really be very frustrating.  An effective group or organization can also ask so much on their members, that sometimes the members would be having no life outside the walls of the area where they work or sacrifice the other aspects of their life just to meet deadlines. For an organization or group with this kind of scenario, relationships can be stressed or suffer from breakdown.

People or other entities who depend on these groups or organization also suffer.

Society is defined as a web of relationships, which requires all parties to work and contribute their share in order to achieve  a common goal. Having a relationship that is good, where cooperation and respect are manifested, can make society work better. In this way each member works for the good of the whole and towards achieving a common goal. This can only be attained with effective and efficient relationships.

Understanding the other parties’ feeling and position creates an effective and efficient relationship. The easiest method to understand what is important to another party is to ask them what they want and listen to what they have to say. When the other party realizes this, they would feel the importance given to them

Effective and efficient relationships require parties to openly express their feelings and positions on all matters pertinent on the relationship. Assuming that the other party understands our needs and give us when we need it without asking for it is not a good practice.

Respect is the key to relationship. In order to create a more effective relationship, parties should treat each other with respect.  We can show respect just by listening to the other party and by trying sincerely to understand how they function. You can also show respect to other parties by confirming that they are doing everything they can.

The opposite of respect is quick forming of judgements based on unfounded facts and prejudice.

Respect is the very foundation for a great relationship. This also means respecting yourself and respecting others.

Another key area in forming an effective relationship is to tackle differences of the other party directly. Differences between parties or people are quite interesting. For example in a conversation where each party listens to the other party, you may observe that each is having two different perspectives.

Work towards a win-win solution for both parties.

This can be done when at least one party acknowledges that the relationship is important. That party would then exert more time, effort and energy to understand the other party’s needs and deal with it to get it out of the way. Should they fail, it is comforting for that party to know that they tried.

Effectively listening and no pre-judging. This is important if parties are to understand each other.

Informal discussions are conducive for parties. They bring out issues and concerns comfortably. They also feel more relaxed making them think more clearly.

Developing an atmosphere where the other party can express their feelings when they need to.

When parties fail to express whatever is on their mind or their feelings, it can get in the way of building an effective relationship.

Parties should be aware that certain things exist naturally but should be controlled in any dealings in any relationship.  Human nature is one. Some of these things found in a relationship also include a history of stereotyping or mistrust, blaming the other person or party for a strained relationship, excluding the other party’s feelings when focusing on a task, no clear and defined objectives, roles and expectations of each party in a relationship is also unclear.

Relationships are important to anyone, addressing issues and problems right away is a must to further improve the relationship. As they say ‘No man is an Island’.

Romance… The history of mankind could not deny that it is something irresistible. Yes, even a heart of callous allowed it to prick him once in his life or more. And, it all starts with a really romantic date. And, where could be that spot of the world is?

Chicago is a spot where lovers could feel free and show to the oblate-spherical world the rush of love they share. What about kissing while in this land of romance? A kiss says it all, right? So, to all lovers, drop those hesitations down. Visit Chicago hold your partner’s waist or chin and seal the day with the most unforgettable kiss. But wait, for a kiss to be worth-cherishing, a warm-gravitating-serene venue would set the mood for loving.

Explore the beauty of the aquatic life outside the ocean; visit the world’s largest aquarium, the Chicago Oceanarium. Show the bookworm in you; grab and read a book at the world’s largest public library, the Harold Washington Library Center. Let go of that wild appetite; fill up your plate with mouth-watering food during the world’s largest food festival; the Taste of Chicago food fest. Express your love for the performing arts; go to the world’s largest stand-alone theater, the Uptown Theater. All of these enigmatic wonders will surely trap your breath and get you addicted with the fine, warm and romantic place in one of the states of America, Chicago.

A candlelit dinner while your theme song is being played from a flamenco guitar is simply irresistible. You can have the kiss of your life at Geja’s Café. It is located at 340 W Avenue, Chicago IL.

Are you fond of stealing kisses? Vivo is the place for both of you. Find your way to 838 W Randolph St, Chicago IL and see for your self what a private table and a converted elevator shaft change the way you see your partner now.

Do you want to show off your alluring spouse to the eyes of many? Is kissing in a public place the best for you? Buckingham fountain must be your place for that hot kiss. It is not only one of Chicago’s known landmarks but in its midst lies a gravity that pulls lovers to make picture-perfect kisses. It is at Grant Park, Chicago, IL.

Are you fixated with your childhood? If you want to bring out the kids in both of you, why not share a kiss while you feel the air on a Ferris wheel? The city skyline is the best backdrop.  Pull her hands and look for Navy Pier Ferris wheel. It is located at 600 E. Grand Avenue, Chicago IL.

Most of us are afraid of the dark. However, this principle vanishes into thin air if you spend the beauty of the darkness with the one you adore the most, right? Imagine glass doors and behind it in the Asian art section, a meditative gallery is just too dark. Imagining it sends one to orbit, how much more if you are right there? The Art Institute of Chicago awaits you. Go take a cab to 111 S. Michigan Ave., Chicago, IL.

Do your hormones go untamable when you get tipsy? Drop lust, welcome passion as the low-lit jazzy atmosphere of Pops for champagne at 2934 N. Sheffield Ave., Chicago, IL will naturally end your night with a lip-lock.

It is undeniable that a kiss itself sounds special but if you consider going to these places with your sweetheart, you will unravel the truth that it tastes even better!

What are you waiting for?

Go to Chicago. Have the date of your life. Kiss… Fall in love…

All over again…

Firsts, these are very memorable events you could not deny. They may come in very varied ways but they share that common effect which is something that stays within the person. First date, what do you think about it? When the time comes that you are about to experience it or even not just the first but any romantic date for that matter, you have to carry with you tips that could make that one ordinary night or time that would let you reminisce it even years after.

• Relax as the date starts; get a drink for both of you if you see the need of doing so. But of course it has to go with a very nice conversation for this is what really matters. A fine start would surely carry the positive vibes all throughout the moment.

• Be attentive, and this does not involve the ears, you need to observe those unspoken words and signs from the other person. Be sensitive, it really matters a lot.

• Do not think about the event in a very serious demeanor. It may just put you under so much pressure. Think of the fact that you are here to get to know each other, have the best time and make the most out of the special event of your lives.

• Avoid dominating the conversation especially for men. Make it sure that your voice volume is in moderation and you talk with the person in a sincere manner. When you do this, you would be listened to not only on that very time but in more conversations to come. You have to remember that generally people love it when others listen to them.

• No discussions about ex-partners and of course about sex. This goes out both ways, no matter how the other person tempts you, be reminded that when out on a date, and you are in a conversation about such matters, less is more.

• Give the singular focus to your date. Do not be too distracted with other people around you, no matter how attractive the woman in at the next table is. Any person likes that attention from the opposite sex. Keep focused.

• Be witty. This is the most attractive point you could flaunt to your date. Nothing beats having a really fun but wholesome conversation. You have to think of the fact that the date you have this time around would be your ticket to the next date or dates. So, do well, let go of those light and gay thoughts.

These reminders would let you try to check and recheck if you are doing the right thing and you are indeed doing what is right and what is impressive for your date and for the event as a whole. The following are tips that would let you get the best scores during the very date.

And, the best reminder you could give yourself is “I am confident, I am going to have fun and I am going to meet the one.”

What you are about to read is a compilation of my experiences and observations of successful people over the past few years. It takes a little more to practice. I’d encourage you to glean through this information with a fine-toothed comb. Once you’re done, start putting this into some application!

If you feel that you are not able to attract the right sort of people, income, or opportunities, it could be because you are of the wrong polarity In success, like attracts like. In this article, you will learn how to effortlessly attract people and circumstances for pleasure and profit. All it takes is 3 simple tips.

Tip #1 : Observe clothes of the top of your field / desired field

What are the top people wearing? I am not talking about brands. I am talking about the combination of clothes, the color, and the material. You do not have to buy the most expensive of brands to look 100% successful. The clothes may maketh the man, but there are definitely other areas you need to consider. Imitate the combination that they wear. Not the brand.

Tip #2: Observe physical habits and behaviors of top people

Their habits and behaviors are a major reason why they got to where they are right now. Successful people have the right combination of charisma and credibility. Imitate their little habits, how they gesture as they speak, how they nod as they listen, or even how they adjust their glasses By internalizing their habits and behaviors, you unconsciously tap into their mental framework and this can give you an insight to their success secrets. You could tap into their decision making process system, persuasion model, or even their seduction strategies. Just get into their physiology.

Tip #3: Observe their language

It is common knowledge now that the Language Filter of a person is a critical determining factor to whether or not he/she will be successful. The words you use have a direct effect on the mental attitude which in turn affects your actions and results. Model the language of successful people. Hear what they say when they encounter a setback. Listen closely to their favorite words and gain an insight to their values and mission. Detailed modeling strategies can be found from books on NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming).

As you can tell, it is not difficult to begin to transform into the success you had dreamed of. Charisma effect is a step by step art that can be followed and duplicated. Success we all know, can be duplicated. What you know now, is how and what to duplicate. Go out there and see for yourself! What do all successful people have in common? Charisma Now you know the secret, there is no excuse anymore.

Action speaks louder than words. It is definitely far easier reading about charisma that practicing charisma secrets. Think about the change you would bring about. What would your spouse say about the new you? What would your colleagues think about the new you? Most importantly, how would you feel being placed in the same class as your idols simply because you knew their secrets to charisma, and applied it. I can’t help you decide to change, you have to decide to use these tips yourself.

So how do you stay calm, composed and maintain self esteem in a tough environment? Here are some tips you may to consider as a starter guide to self improvement.

Imagine yourself as a Dart Board. Everything and everyone else around you may become Dart Pins, at one point or another. These dart pins will destroy your self esteem and pull you down in ways you won’t even remember. Don’t let them destroy you, or get the best of you.  So which dart pins should you avoid?

Dart Pin #1 : Negative Work Environment
Beware of “dog eat dog” theory where everyone else is fighting just to get ahead. This is where non-appreciative people usually thrive. No one will appreciate your contributions even if you miss lunch and dinner, and stay up late. Most of the time you get to work too much without getting help from people concerned.  Stay out of this, it will ruin your self esteem. Competition is at stake anywhere. Be healthy enough to compete, but in a healthy competition that is.

Dart Pin #2: Other People’s Behavior
Bulldozers, brown nosers, gossipmongers, whiners, backstabbers, snipers, people walking wounded, controllers, naggers, complainers, exploders, patronizers, sluffers… all these kinds of people will pose bad vibes for your self esteem, as well as to your self improvement scheme.

Dart Pin #3: Changing Environment
You can’t be a green bug on a brown field. Changes challenge our paradigms. It tests our flexibility, adaptability and alters the way we think. Changes will make life difficult for awhile, it may cause stress but it will help us find ways to improve our selves. Change will be there forever, we must be susceptible to it.

Dart Pin #4: Past Experience
It’s okay to cry and say “ouch!” when we experience pain. But don’t let pain transform itself into fear. It might grab you by the tail and swing you around. Treat each failure and mistake as a lesson.

Dart Pin #5: Negative World View
Look at what you’re looking at. Don’t wrap yourself up with all the negativities of the world. In building self esteem, we must learn how to make the best out of worst situations.

Dart Pin #6: Determination Theory
The way you are and your behavioral traits is said to be a mixed end product of your inherited traits (genetics), your upbringing (psychic), and your environmental surroundings such as your spouse, the company, the economy or your circle of friends. You have your own identity. If your father is a failure, it doesn’t mean you have to be a failure too. Learn from other people’s experience, so you’ll never have to encounter the same mistakes.

Sometimes, you may want to wonder if some people are born leaders or positive thinkers. NO. Being positive, and staying positive is a choice. Building self esteem and drawing lines for self improvement is a choice, not a rule or a talent. God wouldn’t come down from heaven and tell you – “George, you may now have the permission to build self esteem and improve your self.”

In life, its hard to stay tough specially when things and people around you keep pulling you down. When we get to the battle field, we should choose the right luggage to bring and armors to use, and pick those that are bullet proof. Life’s options give us arrays of more options. Along the battle, we will get hit and bruised. And wearing a bullet proof armor ideally means ‘self change’. The kind of change which comes from within. Voluntarily. Armor or Self Change  changes 3 things: our attitude, our behavior and our way of thinking.

Building self esteem will eventually lead to self improvement if we start to become responsible for who we are, what we have and what we do. Its like a flame that should gradually spread like a brush fire from inside and out. When we develop self esteem, we take control of our mission, values and discipline.  Self esteem brings about self improvement, true assessment, and determination. So how do you start putting up the building blocks of self esteem? Be positive. Be contented and happy. Be appreciative. Never miss an opportunity to compliment. A positive way of living will help you build self esteem, your starter guide to self improvement.

Dating is such a fun experience for whatever age it is, there is that different feeling of fulfillment and sheer joy as you meet a person you seem to have interest with. This is a means of finding your future life partner. It could also be a way of getting to know you better for through dating, the side of yourself that you are less familiar with is being unraveled.

When one is out on a date, what must he do in order to make the date worth a memory to cherish? Are there strict guidelines to follow? There are actually none, but there could be helpful tips in order for you to make the most out of your date. These tips are really important so that you would be able to act well and enjoy the rest of the time you have with that special person.

• Observe punctuality.

Time matters in almost any meeting or activity, it matters most in a date especially if it is the first date. Cliché as it may seem but first impressions last and you have to take good care of your date’s impression of you. It may mean something negative if you fail to arrive on time. You may have all the excuses, but you have to show the best efforts in order not to be late.

• Remind yourself that you are just excited and not nervous

That strange pump of your heart is just going to distract you from doing well and enjoying your time. Well, it is but normal to feel that way but do not allow it to swallow you and stop you from doing the things you wanted to do. If you cannot stand the feeling, see to it that you divert that emotion to something that is more positive. Instead of feeling nervous, you have to remind yourself that you are just excited. This could really help you ease the burden of being worried or pressured. Being nervous does not help out, drop it off.

• Honesty is still the best policy

You do not have to impress your date by telling tall tales. Sincerity and honesty would always lead you to that acceptance from others. With your honest way of opening yourself to that person you choose to go out with, you would surely reap a warm and honest treatment as well. You could appear impressive without being dishonest. When you are true to what you say and feel, it exudes.

These are just three of the most helpful tips that could make heaven out of your date. Remember, it is the first step to find that lifetime partner you have been waiting for. For more tips, you could find them online. But for the best three tips, stick with our advice.

It’s a talent that everyone has, yet they think they don’t. The power of innovation. If you’ve ever marvelled at somebody’s creative prowess, guess what, you can create and innovate too. It just takes time. Everyone is born creative. The box of crayons in kindergarten were not limited to those who possessed potential; because the truth is, everybody has potential.

You know how long it took to learn to ride a bike or drive or to never commit the same mistake again? It’s the same with innovation. It takes a  bit of practice and a lot of time before this mind function comes easily  when called. This article will teach you a few tips on how to bring innovation into your life.

Don’t listen to what other people say. Follow the beat of your own drum. Allowing for the input of other people will only bring cacophony to the music you are trying to make. If you have an original idea, don’t waste your time and effort trying to make people understand. They won’t. And the help you will probably get comes in the form of negative feedback. If all those geniuses listened to their peers, we would probably still be living in the middle ages.

Spend time on it. I cannot stress that enough, although, please do not mistake this tip to tell you to quit your day job entirely. Do not. This involves some tricky time management but with a little discipline you’ll be able to squeeze both in.

Exercise. Take a walk. Run a mile or two. Send all those endorphins coursing through your veins. Exercising certainly clears and relaxes your mind and allows for anything to pop up.

Record your dreams. Aren’t some of them just the craziest things that your conscious mind would never have thought of? If you’ve had these dreams before, and I’m sure have, this only shows you the untapped innovative power you have lying within. So jot down those notes. Those dreams may just create an innovative spark in you.

Find your own style. You can always tell a Van Gogh from a Matisse. You’ll know Hemingway wrote something by the choice of words on the paper. So it is the same with you. People will appreciate your innovation more because it is uniquely yours and that no one else would have thought of what you were thinking. That will let people see how valuable an asset you are.

Don’t hide behind nifty gadgets or tools. You don’t need the most expensive set of paints to produce a masterpiece. The same way with writing. You don’t need some expensive fountain pen and really smooth paper for a bestseller. In fact, J.K. Rowling wrote the first book of the Harry Potter Series on bits of tissue. So what if you’ve got an expensive SLR camera if you’re a crappy photographer? Who cares if you’ve got a blinging laptop if you can’t write at all? The artist actually reduces the number of tools he has as he gets better at his craft: he knows what works and what doesn’t.

Nothing will work without passion. What wakes you up in the mornings? What keeps the flame burning? What is the one thing that you’ll die if you don’t do? Sometimes people with talent are overtaken by the people who want it more. Think the hare and the tortoise. Ellen Degeneres once said that if you’re not doing something that you want to do, then you don’t really want to do it. And that’s true. Sometimes you just want something so bad you become a virtual unstoppable. And that is passion. Passion will keep you going.

Don’t worry about inspiration. You can’t force it; inspiration hits when you least expect it to, for those unpredictable yet inevitable moments you should prepare. An idea could strike you on the subway, yet alas, you poor unfortunate soul; you have no sheet of paper to scribble down a thought that could change the world. Avoid these disasters. Have a pen and paper within your arm’s reach at all times.

I hope this article has helped you bring more innovation into your life. Keep in mind that you’re doing these things for your own satisfaction and not anybody else’s. But soon enough they will notice, and everything should snowball from there.

Man will never be an island.

Yes, as long as we breathe, we live as social creatures. We have this innate longing for companion- for someone to talk to, to listen, to comfort. Even the person who people think to be cold has another individual by his or her side. When one feels alone, it is like all the ghosts of life haunt him or her. All the emptiness tend to grow when one has nobody to call his or hers.

Many resort to Online Dating. The web offers numerous websites where you could meet, make friends, and, have relationship with persons who are registered in these websites. You just do not know what story of friendship or love awaits you. When you are single, with that it means you may be someone really single, divorced, widow, widower- online dating is there. Just like any kind of dating, one needs to equip his or her self with the different tips needed to make the most out of it.

There are these traditional dating strategies that work out and will always work out:

For women, it is not commendable to so assertive and goes after the men they want or like. Waiting for that man and being discreet is a better way. As to men, playing as if the “timid” one who is just too shy when it comes to meeting and interacting  with the opposite sex is not good at all. Let go of the confidence and look for that girl you want.

Talking about sexual topics when you do not know your date yet that well is not good at all. Verbal foreplay will just let the two of you focus on this aspect, get carried away and forget about the more important sides of the newly-found bond. This must be avoided another thing is not to have a sexual relationship before being committed. This would also be the one that will destroy the one which was established.

Stay true and be yourself as you are on the process of online dating. This will enable both of you to know each other really well and know if you are compatible with each other. The more you pretend, the more the relationship will grow weak in the future.

If you are afraid of getting hurt again, never test your partner if he or she has the capacity to do it to you too. This is very unhealthy for the relationship. Moreover, do not expect a lot and be disappointed easily. Every person is unique so do not let the other person be who you want her or him to be.

The best tip is this: to enjoy every moment and to get to know and eventually grow in love without the pressure of making everything the way you only want it to be.

Almost everyone have heard the hit single ‘Don’t Worry, Be Happy’ by Bobby McFerrin. The song has a very catchy way of conveying its message of being happy to everyone. Bobby Mcferiin’s simple message surely made a lot of people by telling them not to worry.

Living a happy, resilient and optimistic life is wonderful, and is also good for your health. Being happy actually protects you from the stresses of life. Stress is linked to top causes of death such as heart disease, cancer and stroke.

One of the better things ever said is – ‘The only thing in life that will always remain the same is change’, and in our life we have the power to make the necessary changes if we want to. Even if we find ourselves in an unbearable situation we can always find solace in the knowledge that it too would change.

Social networks or relationships are essential to happiness. People are different, accept people for who or what they are, avoid clashes, constant arguments, and let go of all kinds of resentments. If arguments seem unavoidable still try and make an effort to understand the situation and you might just get along with well with

Happiness is actually found in everyone, increasing it is a way to make a life more wonderful and also more healthy.

To be happy is relatively easy, just decide to be a happy person. Abraham Lincoln observed that most people for most of the time can choose how happy or stressed, how relaxed or troubled, how bright or dull their outlook to be. The choice is simple really, choose to be happy.

There are several ways by which you can do this.

Being grateful is a great attitude.  We have so much to be thankful for. Thank the taxi driver for bringing you home safely, thank the cook for a wonderful dinner and thank the guy who cleans your windows. Also thank the mailman for bringing you your mails, thank the policeman for making your place safe and thank God for being alive.

News is stressful. Get less of it. Some people just can’t start their day without their daily dose of news. Try and think about it, 99% of the news we hear or read is bad news. Starting the day with bad news does not seem to be a sensible thing to do.

A religious connection is also recommended. Being part of a religious group with its singing, sacraments, chanting, prayers and meditations foster inner peace.

Manage your time. Time is invaluable and too important to waste. Time management can be viewed  as a list of rules that involves scheduling, setting goals, planning, creating lists of things to do and prioritizing. These are the core basics of time management that should be understood to develop an efficient personal time management skill. These basic skills can be fine tuned further to include the finer points of each skill that can give you that extra reserve to make the results you desire.

Laugh and laugh heartily everyday.  Heard a good joke? Tell your friends or family about it. As they also say -’Laughter is the best medicine’.

Express your feelings, affections, friendship and passion to people around you. They will most likely reciprocate your actions. Try not to keep pent up anger of frustrations, this is bad for your health. Instead find ways of expressing them in a way that will not cause more injury or hurt to anyone.

Working hard brings tremendous personal satisfaction. It gives a feeling of being competent in finishing our tasks. Accomplishments are necessary for all of us, they give us a sense of value. Work on things that you feel worthy of your time.

Learning is a joyful exercise. Try and learn something new everyday.  Learning also makes us expand and broaden our horizons. And could also give us more opportunities in the future.

Run, jog, walk and do other things that your body was made for. Feel alive.

Avoid exposure to negative elements like loud noises, toxins and hazardous places.

These are the few simple things you can do everyday to be happy.

And always remember the quote from Abraham Lincoln, he says that, “Most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.”

Songs tell a lot. They come in different genre. What have you come across a genre which is endless and immortal? Is it about friendship or hatred? Of course, almost all have the idea that LOVE is the most discussed, written and sung by different people- different voices. When dating out, what makes the date you have worth-cherishing?

Music has something to do with it. And music could eventually shape the mood of your date. Dating is such a great way of sifting your future lifetime partner. When you are out for a date, see to it that the music is just enticing and that it creates a mood for romance.

Man has composed almost all forms of songs but he writes love songs beautifully. Since the day the first love song was created, millions are indeed heart-melting. Songs of finding a new love, losing love, songs of inspiration, songs of moving on…songs about romance, the first times and the spurt of emotions.

With all due respect to all artists and fanatics, these are some of Romance songs which mean the tangle shared by two people in love during the most romantic date:

Truly, Madly, Deeply (Savage Garden) – this duo’s song speaks about an in-depth affection and promise to the person being loved.

“I’d be your dream

I’d be your wish…

I’d be your fantasy…

I’d be your hope…be your love…

Be everything that you need…”

This I Promise You (N’Sync) – this group made the airwaves filled with love. This song is really a pledge of a lifetime commitment. It is often used as wedding song.

“And I will take you in my arms

And hold you right where you belong

Until the day my life is through

This I promise you…”

Iris (Goo Goo Dolls) – the OST of City of Angels, it gained popularity not because of the movie alone but because the song pinches the heart.

“And I don’t want the world to see me

‘Cause I don’t think that they’d understand…

When everything’s made to be broken-

I just want you to know who I am.”

Dreaming’ of you (Selina) – the singer died but the song stays immortal. It is a light song but with a strong impact to one’s heart.

“I’m dreaming of you tonight

‘Til tomorrow

And for all of my life

And there’s nowhere in the world

I’d rather be…”

Songs will always be a part of courtship and it all starts with dating. If not, just a pat of an ignored expression of love. Music is the greatest invention man. Generations will continue to keep it rich. It will remind them of love and romance when they are here and grow up.

Dating seems to be a very exciting term. It would mean a new phase of a person’s life a head. Whatever the purpose of dating is, one must always be responsible and by all means be cautious about being into this kind of activity. Since you are getting involved with unknown individuals, you must equip your self with the necessary protection or security whatever risks there are. Yes, there are risks…

Online dating is of course, safe from outside risks since it happens with a distance between the people involved. However, there is a consequence with the majority of those involved to meet the online partner they have. This is when the risks start.

According to studies in the US, Dating violence is rampant among adolescent girls, especially those reporting having had the experience of coitus or sexual intercourse.

Adolescent girls who were hurt by a date on purpose in the past year are more likely to experience sexual health risks, such as having the possibility to acquire human immunodeficiency virus infection and other sexually transmitted infections, unwanted pregnancy may also happen out of the blue. Sad to say, unwanted pregnancies resort to abortion in some cases.

Women are physically weak. There are a lot of possibilities that they are being taken advantaged of by their dates. The objective of online dating is noble, but there are these people who are using it as a venue for their worldly wants. The local governments are now integrating this issue in their health programs for women as well as the local agency in responsibility for crime-related aspects must do their share.

As for the adult women who are into dating, most of them are out due to long-term relationship heartbreak and so they are there to meet anyone possible. This reason pushes them to the risks of meeting the wrong man but still believing that he is right. With that, they are prone to possible sexual abuses or other forms of abuse.

The most common risk in online dating is both financial and emotional in nature. Financial risk comes in the form of scam. You must be cautious and try to read between the lines if the person is just playing around. The emotional risks are results of having like a married date and so fort

Dating, companionship and courtship are really good for us but some comes in disguise- they are hidden black agenda, so be careful.

The odds of finding your “soul-mate” online are a lot better than you may think. It doesn’t happen for everyone, of course, but it can happen for you. The world of internet or online dating has exploded over the last few years.

As our lives become busier and busier we need to make better use of our time and energy in our search for the one man who will make our lives complete.

The old saying, “You have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find a princess” is no longer true. Why kiss frogs when you can read hundreds of profiles and look at the pictures that go with them for a small monthly fee? That saves time and money…not to mention lip burn.

These are a few good reasons to consider online dating:

(1)    There is a wide range of men to choose from. You aren’t limited to the men in your social circle or work environment.

(2)    You have the opportunity to get to know a lot about a man before you ever contact him for the first time. You will know his age, marital status, what city he lives in, whether he has children, his height/weight and his likes and dislikes all from his profile. You’ll even see a picture of him.

(3)    You have a better chance to present yourself in a favorable way. This is especially useful for those of us who are shy. We have time to think about how we want to say things about ourselves and can avoid being tongue tied. Even those who are more extroverted can take time to reflect on who they really are before writing their online profile.

(4)    Online dating is certainly a time saver. You can meet so many more men in a lot less time than you ever could out in the real world.

In the past, i.e. the 1990’s, online dating was a brand new idea. Unlike today, most people did not own PC’s or even have access to the internet. Times have changed. Online dating is not only IN the mainstream, it IS the mainstream.

There are many reasons for the phenomenal growth of online dating sites and the number of people, men and women of all ages, races and religions who use them as their primary source for meeting people and looking for “the one”.

If you don’t believe me, just ask your friends in the “real” world. If they are honest, most of them will tell you they have or are using an online dating service.

Here are three good reasons why thousands of people sign up for dating services everyday:

(1)    You can be anonymous. You will never be required to give your real name, address, email address, phone number or place of employment to another online user. You, of course, may do so but only at your own discretion and only when you feel completely safe. You are not required to post a picture of yourself. Posting a picture, however, will get more responses to your profile. So you can surf through the other members on the dating site you have joined with complete anonymity.

(2)    You have so many more choices online that you do in your brick and mortar world. Before the world of online dating came of age, the choice of friends and even of lifetime partners was limited to those we came in contact with through college or work. No more…the world is your oyster. You can go through hundreds…even thousands of profiles to find the right man for you.

(3)    The “safety factor” is the biggest reason of all. An online dating service will never reveal your personal information. You get to choose who has that information and when they have it.

There are many causes to the build up of anger, but simply put, it is a combination and development of negative feelings around us in our everyday life. In today’s hectic society, the stress levels in our lives are extremely high (and growing) because a lot of our daily lives are target-driven.

Children are expected to get certain grades when they study. Likewise adults must perform at a certain level at the workplace. The fear of not being able to achieve these targets causes some people to develop angry emotions. To top it off, the release of frustration and anger is also heavily suppressed in today’s society. When negative emotions are building up, people do not have a proper avenue to release them. After all, such explosive emotions are frowned upon by society. As a result, the bottling of negativity within such people just grows over time, causing anger to take over us in the long run.

When anger takes over, there can be disastrous consequences. To bring our psychological health back to normal, as a start to lead a calm and happy life, here are 3 tips that any one can practice over time, to reclaim control over your emotions and your life.

1)    Meditation

While meditation sounds nothing less than mystical to some people, it is one of the oldest practice in human history to secure inner peace. Find 10 minutes every day and just sit down on the floor in your room with legs crossed and just blank out the frustrations and stress from your life. Forget about work, about problems, about relationship issue and commit this full 10 minutes to flush out everything around you. As you progress, do your best to maintain this mental stillness for up to an hour. Take deep breaths and close your eyes for the full duration of your daily meditation. This is one of the simplest actions to take for us to reduce the effects of negativity on us so anybody can start working on it now. Try it and you will get amazing result over time!

2)    Engage in sports and games

When we feel angry, our minds send a rush of adrenalin down our body that causes faces to turn red and muscles to tense. Engaging in sports and games that are competitive in nature can be the right channel for us to channel this excess energy to, resulting in better emotional control. On top of it, developing a passion in a healthy hobby can also release the stress and frustrations from building up, preventing anger from developing

3)    Spend more time for yourself

One of the most obvious hints of frustration in today’s society is the excuse of having no time. Whenever we think of having a holiday suddenly, or doing something which we will really enjoy, we always happen to have no time.  While this can be true to some extent, due to a lack of time management skills, it is nothing more than an excuse of us prioritizing other things over our own interests. For example, we can rush to work-related meetings for the whole day, yet when we want to just pick out 1 hour of a day to go for a swim, we will have no time. Sounds ridiculous? It’s happening!

We need to start realizing that while there are important tasks to be completed day by day, nothing and no one is more important than ourselves! Therefore, start having the habit of scheduling time for yourselves every day. Schedule it like how you schedule a work meeting, but this time round, meet yourself and use the time to do something that you like but hadn’t always had the chance to.

I strongly believe that no amount of money of career excellence can buy the well-being of self, without which we can forget about career, family and health. Start being nice to yourself and take some time off every day, just to do something which you like, and you will soon be a much happier person because you no longer need to suppress the frustration of not being able to do what you like to do.

Conclusion

Anger is an emotional state. There are scientific results to show that an individual who gets angry easily and frequently tends to also suffer a dip in health compared to that of a happy person. Anger could cause regretful actions and when it dies down, the consequences can, and almost always, come back to haunt you. We need to recognize that anger can be an extremely dangerous emotion. Therefore, in order to not live a life of regrets, start taking control of anger before it happens, instead of letting it get out of hand. Consistent practice of the above 3 tips will be a good way to start to regain controls over your emotions.

At first glance, it would seem that positive thinking and Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD) have nothing to do with one another. But many of us with ADD develop negative thinking patterns because we become frustrated by our challenges and frequent feelings of being overwhelmed. This negative outlook then makes it even harder for us to manage those challenges and move forward.

Practicing positive thinking allows people with ADD to focus on our strengths and accomplishments, which increases happiness and motivation. This, in turn, allows us to spend more time making progress, and less time feeling down and stuck. The following tips provide practical suggestions that you can use to help you shift into more positive thinking patterns:

1. Take Good Care of Yourself
It’s much easier to be positive when you are eating well, exercising, and getting enough rest.

2. Remind Yourself of the Things You Are Grateful For
Stresses and challenges don’t seem quite as bad when you are constantly reminding yourself of the things that are right in life. Taking just 60 seconds a day to stop and appreciate the good things will make a huge difference.

3. Look for the Proof Instead of Making Assumptions
A fear of not being liked or accepted sometimes leads us to assume that we know what others are thinking, but our fears are usually not reality. If you have a fear that a friend or family member’s bad mood is due to something you did, or that your co-workers are secretly gossiping about you when you turn your back, speak up and ask them. Don’t waste time worrying that you did something wrong unless you have proof that there is something to worry about.

4. Refrain from Using Absolutes
Have you ever told a partner “You’re ALWAYS late!” or complained to a friend “You NEVER call me!”? Thinking and speaking in absolutes like ‘always’ and ‘never’ makes the situation seem worse than it is, and programs your brain into believing that certain people are incapable of delivering.

5. Detach From Negative Thoughts
Your thoughts can’t hold any power over you if you don’t judge them. If you notice yourself having a negative thought, detach from it, witness it, and don’t follow it.

6. Squash the “ANTs”
In his book “Change Your Brain, Change Your Life,” Dr. Daniel Amen talks about “ANTs” – Automatic Negative Thoughts. These are the bad thoughts that are usually reactionary, like “Those people are laughing, they must be talking about me,” or “The boss wants to see me? It must be bad!” When you notice these thoughts, realize that they are nothing more than ANTs and squash them!

7. Practice Lovin’, Touchin’ & Squeezin’ (Your Friends and Family)
You don’t have to be an expert to know the benefits of a good hug. Positive physical contact with friends, loved ones, and even pets, is an instant pick-me-up. One research study on this subject had a waitress touch some of her customers on the arm as she handed them their checks. She received higher tips from these customers than from the ones she didn’t touch!

8. Increase Your Social Activity
By increasing social activity, you decrease loneliness. Surround yourself with healthy, happy people, and their positive energy will affect you in a positive way!

9. Volunteer for an Organization, or Help another Person
Everyone feels good after helping. You can volunteer your time, your money, or your resources. The more positive energy you put out into the world, the more you will receive in return.

10. Use Pattern Interrupts to Combat Rumination
If you find yourself ruminating, a great way to stop it is to interrupt the pattern and force yourself to do something completely different. Rumination is like hyper-focus on something negative. It’s never productive, because it’s not rational or solution-oriented, it’s just excessive worry. Try changing your physical environment – go for a walk or sit outside. You could also call a friend, pick up a book, or turn on some music.

When it comes to the corporate world, protocol is pretty much the religion. To know the things needed to do are the basics of productivity, but interaction and having a steady mind makes up the entire thing to true productivity. There are those who seem to work well even under pressure, but they’re uncommon ones and we are human and imperfect. To get these little things like stress under our skins won’t solve our problems. Sometimes it takes a bit of courage to admit that we’re turning to be workaholics than tell ourselves that we’re not doing our best.

While you search the internet for that special lady…the one of your dreams…your soul-mate…the other half of yourself, you can do a lot of things right.  Sadly, you can, also, do a lot of things wrong….things that will guarantee failure and a broken heart.   Out in the “real” world, being aggressive, demanding perfection and even little white lies are all ingredients for success.  However, those same qualities are killers when you are dating online and off line, too, for that matter.

There is a big difference between being aggressive or confident and being too aggressive, over-confident, or just plain sleazy or slimy from a woman’s point of view. If you push too hard for a face-to-face, you will come across as too aggressive…maybe even, scary.  Try to remember that you are not trying to close a business deal and keep the relationship progressing at a slow but steady pace.  Patience is the key.

Nobody is perfect.  We are all flawed in some way or another…and that includes you, as well.  If you expect the woman to be absolutely perfect and demand that, you will always be disappointed.  Demanding perfectionism in your work is one thing.  Demanding perfectionism from a friend, co-worker or a lady you are interested in is not just fine.  It won’t happen.  Expect flaws and just deal with them.  Decide the ones you can live with and those you can’t.

Little white lies and false fronts won’t work.  Be honest from the beginning of a relationship.  Write your profile.  Make it interesting but don’t make false statements.  The truth will come out eventually anyway.  If you say you are a lawyer who makes a million bucks a year and you are really an electrician that makes $75,000, you have set yourself up for failure.

Remember…don’t be too aggressive, expect to ever find perfection or put on a false front.

Online dating can be a fun and certainly a rewarding experience for women of all ages. Maintaining your safety while doing it is simply a combination of using common sense and exercising good judgment. Online safety rules are the same as real world safety rules.

You wouldn’t give your name, address and phone number to a strange man that you met in a bar or on the street so you should never do that online either. Play it safe. Get to know this man who could turn out to be Prince Charming before you give out any information that could make it possible for him or others to trace you. Don’t tell a stranger exactly where you work. Say that you are a legal secretary (if that’s what you are) for a mid-sized law firm….not that you work for Brown, Smith and Jones Attorneys-at-law. It is safe to tell him what city you live in but you should wait to be any more specific than that until you have been chatting and exchanging emails for awhile.

Use only the tools provided by the dating service you belong to. Most offer chat and private email on their site. Do not give out your isp email address. If you must give out an email address make it a free one such as Hotmail or Yahoo. Your isp address is traceable for anyone who wants to go to the trouble.

When the time comes for you to have your first face-to-face, make that first meeting in a public place and during day light hours. Take a friend with you or arrange for one to call you on your cell soon after the arranged meeting.

Remember…you ARE in control so do not let anyone pressure you into revealing more personal information than you are comfortable with revealing.

Life isn’t fair. Men get all the breaks. You’ve devoted all of your 20’s to getting your career off the ground. Not that you haven’t been dating…you have, but not seriously. Now here you are…30 something and there is no long term relationship in sight. You can actually hear your biological clock ticking. You have a precious few years to find a man to fall in love with, make him fall in love with you, get married, and have a baby or its lights out. You already know all of the men in your social circle. Not that they aren’t nice guys…some of them…but none of them are your soul mate. What’s a girl to do?

Consider online dating. You have the opportunity to read hundreds of profiles and look at hundreds of pictures in search of that “someone” that will be right for you. Maybe he will live in the same city you do…maybe he will live across the country or even in another country altogether. You aren’t limited to only those men that you come in contact with personally. The possibilities are almost endless.

“Is online dating safe”, you ask. “Aren’t the online dating sites made up entirely of perverts, sexual predators and weirdoes in assorted shapes and sizes?” the answer is, no they aren’t. Not anymore anyway. That was true when online dating first came on the scene but now it is mainstream. It’s as safe as you make it using common sense and sound judgment. Use the same caution that you would when meeting any stranger. Don’t give your real name, address or phone number until you feel safe doing so. Don’t rush into a face-to-face meeting until you are confident and then make the first meeting in a public place and during daylight hours. Give it a try…Mr. Right might be a few mouse clicks away.

It is fun to date online- you get to imagine what the person you are talking to is like. There may be web cameras and headsets that would lead you to knowing the other person closer but of course, meeting in person is far different from online dating.

Just like the typical setting in our mind, it is really stressful to know that one day, you are going to meet and go out on a date with the person you used to chat with only. How would you be impressive? What would you do so that it will not be your first and last date? Confidence says it all. When that day comes, all you need to have is the reliance in your self and the thought that things will be dealt with naturally. Pretensions are never helpful.

Do not put much pressure on your self and on your date. Treat it as a night of fun no matter what your purpose is- whether you are looking for a night of excitement or hoping to meet your partner for good, you just have to deal with the date with enthusiasm and not many expectations from your date. You just have to enjoy the company of the person with you. It is only the first- so, whatever happens next depends on both of you.

Confidence could be derived from mind conditioning. When you think that you are a person of confidence, it is surely to exude. Could you imagine these people who arrive in a party with all people turning their head just to have a look at that man or woman? You do not have to be very beautiful or be very sexy just to achieve confidence. When you are confident, everything beautiful and sexy follows.

Being insecure is never good. When you feel this way, try to divert your attention. Ask your date questions about her. With that, you can somehow evade the situation where you have to answer questions.

To make a more exciting date and keep your self away from the questions you are not comfortable with, it would be wonderful if you find a similar interest between the two of you and go out. Trying the things or activities together would be very interesting. You could talk about your past experiences about those happenings.

The top most point to remember is that you are a special person who deserves to be happy. You must never be insecure because we are created with individual strengths, we must flaunt them and be gutsy. With that, we could meet people with self-esteem.

Who knows? With this confidence, you will finally meet the lifetime partner you have been waiting for.

Many of the same things work for online flirting that work for “brick and mortar” flirting and all relationships begin with successful flirting.  Flirting is an art that requires oozing confidence without being OTT.  If you go too far, she will label you “slimy” If you don’t go far enough, she will label you “wimpy”.  So how do you achieve that point half way between slimy and wimpy and do it online without using eye contact or body language?  All you have is a computer an internet connection and membership in an online dating site, right?

1.    Have fun!  Be light-hearted, funny and entertaining.  Make her eager to talk to you again.  Flirting is playful.

2.    Ooze confidence.  Successful flirts have a positive outlook on life.  You need to transmit the “feel good” factor.  An optimistic attitude attracts females like honey attracts flies.

3.    3.  Compliment her…and do it often and sincerely.  Nothing opens doors like making her feel good about herself.  She will want to spend more time with you and if she pays you a compliment say “thank you”.  Do Not be self depreciating.

4.    Listen…listen….listen.  Pay attention to what she says and ask appropriate questions.  Get her to open up and talk about herself.  Make her feel like she is interesting and that you are interested in her.  Works wonders!

5.    Don’t be rude.  Flirting does not include being sexually explicit nor taking offence if the lady isn’t responding to you. If she isn’t interested, take the hint and move on to the next prospect.  If you get a lot of rejections, you should probably consider a different approach.

6.    Send an email after you chat.  This ranks right up there with sending a thank you note for a gift and it is vital to successful flirting.

Don’t try to go too fast.  Flirting is the first step to a successful relationship.

Almost everything you read about online dating safety is directed at women but men need to be concerned as well.  Perverts, sexual predators and weirdoes come in both sexes, all sizes, and all ages…as do, liars and cheaters.  So men need to stay on guard, too.

It is common knowledge not to readily give out personal information to strangers.  The reason for not doing so is as large as the number of strangers who want that information.  If you come across a person who is giving out personal information and asking others to do the same, don’t do it.  You don’t know what they want to use it for….and you had better believe they want to use it for something.  That “something” will not be for your benefit.  Men, also, need to guard their real names, addresses, phone numbers, and place of employment.  Do not give that information to anyone online until you are confident that they are who they say they are.

Men, be wary of women who seem too financially needy.  If they ask for money, in any of a dozen ways women can ask for money, cut the relationship off immediately.  They are not looking for love or even friendship….they are looking for financial help.

If a woman gives you a contact number but you cannot ever reach her at that number, beware.  If you always have to page them or text them and have them call you back, this could be a sign that what they are telling you is not the complete truth.

A need to get married and insecurity are other signs men should be very wary of.  If the woman is pushing too hard for a commitment you aren’t ready to make, it might be a good time to head for the nearest exit.

It is absolutely true that when online dating sites first started they were populated entirely by perverts, sexual predators, weirdoes, social misfits and emotional wrecks but that is no longer true. Online dating has gone mainstream and has lost all the social stigma it once suffered. Single people of all ages, races, religions and both sexes do it. Short people, tall people, thin people, obese people do it. People from every developed country in the world do it. Nice girls do it, too. The reasons people join online dating sites are as varied as the people who join but mostly they join for three very good reasons:

(1) Time

(2) Money

(3) It works.

Time: You can go through hundreds of online profiles and look at hundreds of pictures in the same length of time only one real world date takes and the screening is already done for you. You can tell right away if a guy is only looking for casual relationships or long term commitments. How many times have you worked 8 hours, gone home and spent another hour getting ready to go out then gone to the local hang-out for singles only to see the same old jerks, losers and drunks that are always there?

Money: For the price of one evening out on the town you can enjoy an entire month of meeting men from the safety of your own home….do it in your jammies or sweats and with a beauty facial working its magic.

It works. It really does work if you are willing to do the right things. Write a profile that grabs attention, post recent pictures of yourself, be fun and interesting while chatting with the men you meet on line, answering emails promptly and being on time for a pre-arranged online meeting.

The sooner you realize this sad but true fact, the sooner you can get on with finding Mr. Close-Enough-To-Perfect. Prince Charming, riding on a white stallion, lost his way or found Princess Charming and got married on his way to your castle. Get over it and get on with it. You ARE going to have to actively seek the man of your dreams and you won’t find him hiding under your bed. You already know that he isn’t among the men that you are acquainted with so, now what? Online dating is “what”.

It’s true that online dating, while in its infancy, was only made up of perverts, sexual predators, nerds and weirdoes but that is no longer true. It has become the main tool of the single person in every developed country in the world. Forty million people can’t all be wrong. Ask your girl friends if they have ever used online dating or are using it now. If they are honest with you, most of them have or are now members of at least one online dating site and maybe more than one. It really is the way to go to meet eligible men who want to meet you. It doesn’t matter what any of your numbers are…like age, height, weight or income either. Somewhere out there in the big wide world there is a man who will like you…..then love you….and think that you are beautiful and desirable. “Beauty is in the eye of the beholder” is true. What is considered beautiful in one part of the world is completely different from what is considered beautiful in another part of the world. It’s even different from one part of this country to another.

Find an online dating site that fits your needs. Write a great profile and post a flattering picture. Start contacting eligible men on the site. Mr. Close-enough-to-perfect could be a few mouse clicks away.

The Blarney Stone is a historical stone, or actually part of the Blarney Castle in Ireland where it was believed that kissing the stone can grant you the gift of gab. Yeah, it seems strange in this day and age, but who are we to question tradition? It’s not like I’m saying that Santa Claus doesn’t exist (OOPS!).

There is so much to know about conversation that anyone, even I, could ever realize. You can go though watching talk shows; radio programs; clubs dedicated to public speaking; ordinary conversations; certain rules still apply when it comes to interaction through words. It may sound tedious, I know, but even though it’s your mouth that’s doing the work, your brain works twice as hard to churn out a lot of things you know. So what better way to start learning to be an effective communication is to know the very person closest to you: yourself.

1. What you know.
Education is all about learning the basics, but to be an effective speaker is to practice what you’ve learned. My stint as guest at every Toastmasters’ meeting I go to taught me that we all have our limitations, but that doesn’t mean we can’t learn to keep up and share what we know.

2. Listening.
It’s just as important as asking questions. Sometimes listening to the sound of our own voice can teach us to be a little bit confident with ourselves and to say the things we believe in with conviction.

3. Humility
We all make mistakes, and sometimes we tend to slur our words, stutter, and probably mispronounce certain words even though we know what it means, but rarely use it only to impress listeners. So in a group, don’t be afraid to ask if you’re saying the right word properly and if they’re unsure about it then make a joke out of it. I promise you it’ll make everyone laugh and you can get away with it as well.

4. Eye Contact
There’s a lot to say when it comes to directing your attention to your audience with an eye-catching gaze. It’s important that you keep your focus when talking to a large group in a meeting or a gathering, even though he or she may be gorgeous.

5. Kidding around
A little bit of humor can do wonders to lift the tension, or worse boredom when making your speech. That way, you’ll get the attention of the majority of the crowd and they’ll feel that you’re just as approachable, and as human to those who listen.

6. Be like the rest of them
Interaction is all about mingling with other people. You’ll get a lot of ideas, as well as knowing what people make them as they are.

7. Me, Myself, and I
Admit it, there are times you sing to yourself in the shower. I know I do! Listening to the sound of your own voice while you practice your speech in front of a mirror can help correct the stress areas of your pitch. And while you’re at it you can spruce up as well.

8. With a smile
A smile says it all much like eye contact. There’s no point on grimacing or frowning in a meeting or a gathering, unless it’s a wake. You can better express what you’re saying when you smile.

9. A Role Model
There must be at least one or two people in your life you have listened to when they’re at a public gathering or maybe at church. Sure they read their lines, but taking a mental note of how they emphasize what they say can help you once you take center stage.

10. Preparation
Make the best out of preparation rather than just scribbling notes and often in a hurried panic. Some people like to write things down on index cards, while other resort to being a little more silly as they look at their notes written on the palm of their hand (not for clammy hands, please). Just be comfortable with what you know since you enjoy your work.

And that about wraps it up. These suggestions are rather amateurish in edgewise, but I’ve learned to empower myself when it comes to public or private speaking and it never hurts to be with people to listen how they make conversations and meetings far more enjoyable as well as educational.

Online dating is not a competition between competing males for the attention of a female.  Grow up.  Change your mind set from “winning” to “searching”.  This isn’t high school.  You are all grown up and have been for quite some time, now.  Your attitude is the most important asset you have.  You should like yourself and not concentrate of all of the things that aren’t YOUR idea of the perfect guy…the one the all women want.

What is that women want, you ask?  That’s the age old question.  Being of the female persuasion myself, I can tell you a few things women want and don’t want.

Women want a man to be confident…NOT an arrogant jerk.  There’s a big difference.  You need to like yourself and not be self depreciating but you don’t need to come across like you believe that you are a gift to them from God and have just fallen from the sky.  They don’t want you to think that THEY just fell from heaven and are some kind of perfect being, either.  They can’t live up to that expectation.

Women want a communicator. The “strong silent type” really isn’t appealing at all.   They think you probably don’t have an original thought in your head and you probably haven’t heard a word they said, either or that you just don’t care what they said or didn’t even hear what they said.  They want you to be interesting enough to want to know more about you and they want you to think that they are interesting enough to ask intelligent questions about what is important to them, too.

Women do NOT want to be a prize to be won.  They don’t want to be a trophy. They want to be the ONE woman that you want to be with.

After the invitation to have a date with you, yes you could rejoice a bit but this must not take you for so long, you need to prepare for the day, the real day that you have been wishing for to arrive. Your preparation matters most. When you do not know what exactly to do, let us lend you our guides.

These are the tips that would surely let you walk the right path for the date you have pictured out:

• Set an early date for that date.

When you set such a date weeks after, it could just make your patience brittle and it would just pile up stress unto you. At first, you may feel that excitement inside you but as the days grow longer, you may get more and more impatient.

• Choose a less formal venue

For the first date, it would not be too comfortable if you choose a place where you would feel stuffy. Better have in mind a venue that is less formal but more fun. The too much formality thing may just stop you from getting to know each other well.

• Lunch time for the first time.

To all those who are having a “get to know each other date”, it is advisable to have an early date so that rushing plans to make the time special may not happen. There could still be that romantic touch though the sun is out. Evening dates may come after the first date.

• Think more of the person not the place.

Pressures about the venue, the food to order and the clothes you would wear. These are just secondary and they do not have to post so much pressure on you. If you allow this to happen, you would surely get carried away with the pressures and forget the real purpose of the date.

• Informal but not scruffy

As mentioned above, you have to choose a venue that is less formal but it does not mean that it has to be scruffy and you do not have to look as one scruffy thing as well. Look presentable though not that very formal.

• Your wealth is not the topic

There are a lot of fun and light things to talk about, do not brag about what you or your parents have. This would not be so nice for a topic that may just spoil the rest of the time. Humility would surely be a ticket to more dates.

These are just some of the many tips you need to have in your heart so that you would also have those good memories to be brought about by the great date you have. Of course, you have your own way of making this day special too.

With the explosion of online dating sites has come a virtual smorgasbord of choices. There are free sites… I don’t recommend those but if money is a real concern, they are better than nothing. There are the large paid sites with many and varied features like chat, IM and even matching using profiles. There are the less expensive paid sites with few features. There are special interest sites for almost any thing you can think of…outdoor enthusiasts, couch potatoes, religious, non-religious, gays, lesbians…like I said…almost anything you can think of. So what’s a girl to do? A girl should choose the site or sites that best fit her needs.

Here are some things to consider:

• Cost. How much do you want or how much can you spend each month for your membership (s)?


• Features. Which features are the most important to you?

1. Profile matching systems. Is this a feature you really want or would you rather decide who is right for you all by yourself?


2. Chat and IM’s? There are websites who offer chat rooms and IM’s on their sites. Does that matter or would you be happy just sticking to private email.


3. Outside Events…such as speed dating? Are you interested in that?


4. Privacy. Some websites allow you to limit who can view your picture or your profile. Does this matter to you or do you want as wide exposure as you can have?


5. Safety. There are websites who do background checks of all subscribers and certify their age, marital status and background. Would you feel safer using this feature?

These are a few things but not all things you should consider when choosing an online dating service or services. Do your homework and choose wisely for the best results for you.

No matter what your age, height, weight or physical appearance, there are thousands of women out there eager to meet you and eager for your company…whether short-term or long-term relationships are what you want.  If you have found yourself suddenly “on-the-market” again after a relationship has dissolved or are just too busy with your work to spend a lot of time looking for a lady to keep you company, online dating can open the door to the dating scene for you.

The good news is that all you need is a computer and an internet connection to get started.  The first thing to do is find an online dating site that fits your needs.  There are the large sites that offer many extras like live video chat and even match you up with ladies using your profiles and, also, a lot of sites that cater to special interests like religious preferences, outdoor enthusiasts, gays, etc. You need to choose one or two that will meet your needs.  I don’t recommend the free sites.  The paid sites have a money back guarantee if you aren’t satisfied and the investment is small.  A whole month costs less than one dinner and movie date.

The next thing you need to do is write a killer, but honest, profile and upload a recent but flattering picture of yourself.   Now you are all set.  Start contacting ladies whose profiles sound interesting to you and answer any lady who contacts you…and do so promptly…not, however, on holidays or weekends.  You don’t want to appear that desperate.  Don’t give up after a month and think you will never find the right lady for you.  New people join online dating services daily and at least half of them are ladies many, of whom, will want to meet you.

Here’s a little secret that those of the female persuasion keep from us guys:  Women, even very beautiful women, like to be approached by a confident and interesting man.  Are you surprised?  It’s true…and confident and interesting are much more important than looks to ladies of all ages, too. That’s true for internet dating, as well as, dating in your brick and mortar world but we’re talking about internet dating here…so back to the subject at hand.

Once you have joined an online dating service, you will find that there a lot more men than women and that the men are much more likely to browse profiles and make initial contacts than women.  Yes, it’s a woman’s world…still.  It’s “traditional” for men to make the first move.  It always has been and it always will be. Some things never change. That’s why your profile and picture are so important.

Remember…confident and interesting….and that does not translate to cocky and self-centered. It’s important that your profile lets people know that you have friends you care about and that you are passionately interested in a variety of things…not JUST sports. Another thing about that all-important profile….please don’t start it with, “I’m the guy your mama warned you about”.

You will have just shot yourself in the foot with that line.  Another one to never use is, “I could be the man of your dreams”.  The lady HOPES you are but she will be the judge of that…so don’t insult her intelligence. Remember….exude confidence and interesting and you will find that lady you have been looking for…or she will find you.

Won’t it be nice to have the ladies contacting you instead of you having to do everything?  If you write a great profile that stands out in the crowd, that will happen.

Your friend has decided that you need help with your social life so she sets you up with a blind date….a friend of a friend of a friend.  You, foolishly, accept.  Now there you are. It’s less than one hour since you were introduced.  You are sitting in a Thai restaurant and you hate Thai food.  The entrée has not yet been served.  His idea of enlightened conversation is who will be in the final four…you aren’t into sports. He knows the weekly TV schedule verbatim….you haven’t sat through a movie in months because you run marathons and volunteer at the local food bank. He says, “Volunteering is a waste of time because you can’t help ‘those people’ anyway.” You look at your watch; see that it’s only been 10 minutes since you last looked at it the last time and wonder how long it is before you can gracefully remove yourself from the situation.  Been there?

Now imagine a date with someone you met through internet dating and have been chatting online with and exchanging emails with for quite some time. First, you don’t need to be introduced.  You already know this man.  You are sitting in an Italian restaurant enjoying a delightful meal because you both know that the other’s favorite is Italian. The conversation flows easily as you discuss common interests.  He runs marathons and loves history just like you do. You happily discuss the volunteer work that each of you is involved in. You look at your watch and discover that it is late…very late…where Has the time gone.

There is a big difference between a well-intentioned friend “setting you up” and choosing a man for yourself who shares your interests and tastes, isn’t there?  Now which one would you rather have?

Love or any of its elements seem to bloom in any place- even the places you least expect it to grow in. Workplace? It is not that impossible at all. It is even one of the best venues to search for a prospect life partner since one is more aware of what this other person is. You work with that person so you get to know more of him inside and out. On the second thought, is it a bed of roses in all angles?

The answer is of course- NO. In whatever form of romance story, there will always be these villains. But, what if you want to go out and have a date with a co-worker?

Just imagine this: a male co-worker sends a present to you, it will surely be a big-hot issue for the whole office. The bigger issue to face is the negative consequences entailed by the romance you choose to have. There are some reasons why office romance is not allowed by some companies. Therefore, be sure to make your self aware of the internal rules of the company. For some, it is a grave offense and an employee will be terminated from work.

Romance at work will greatly affect an employee’s decision-making. With this, team efforts and some team tasks will really be moved by couple-employees. It is a fact that once personal life s inserted in professionalism, trouble might bite.

Another picture is that for couples, what if one gets the promotion over the other? Yes, they are lovers but there will always be that “”ego” thing since both people are having the same job. Professionals as they are, they have that aim to be at par from the rest of the employees.

Reassignment is another issue. Some companies’ reassign one of the persons to another task just to overcome assumed affects which may not well for the company. If the reassignment of the other person is not favorable for the relationship, it will plunge down their good performance. Thus, it affects their over-all production.

When a couple is constantly together, it will also affect the team tasks where may one of them join into. Other co-workers will also be affected and intimidated.

Despite all of these negative effects, there will always be that positive thing about romance at work. You meet a partner who could understand you and your mood swings because you share the same pressures of work.

When you are just on the dating stage, see to it that you that you do it as discreetly as you could without triggering some possible gossips that may just affect you and the person involved. Being professional includes knowing how to put that margin between your workplace and your private life.

I’m talking about online dating, of course. When the phenomenon of online dating sites started several years ago, they were a haven for perverts, sexual predators, nerds, and weirdoes of assorted varieties.

That is just no longer the case. All the stigma of online dating is gone.  Online dating has gone main stream and is, not only acceptable, but expected. Online dating has become the primary tool of single people of all ages to generate an interesting and rewarding social life.

Let’s face it…we are busy guys. We just simply do not have the time, the energy, or the financial where-with-all to date several nights each week while we look for the “one”. You can sort through hundreds of profiles in a month for less money than you would spend on one evening out, thus, saving time and money. We use the internet to save ourselves time and money for a lot of things like investments, shopping, medical information, and communications.

Why not make use of such a useful tool for our social and personal lives as well? You could find the love of your life. At the very least, you will meet some interesting people and possibly make some lasting friendships.  It’s easy to get started. All you need is a computer and an internet connection. You’ll need to search for online dating services that meet your specific needs. They are many and varied.

Join one or two. Then you’ll need to write a great profile, upload a recent picture of yourself and start making and answering contacts. That really is all there is to it…that and patience.

Don’t wait any longer to start your new and interesting social life.  Miss or Ms. “Right” could be only a few clicks of the mouse away.

OK…the time has come. You have joined an online dating service or two. Now you must write that all-important profile… the one that will attract attention and reel in the man of your dreams… but where to start? Maybe writing isn’t even something you think you do all that well. Even so, you can do this.

The first thing is to be absolutely honest about yourself. You are looking for that man who will like…maybe someday love…YOU….THE REAL YOU! Examine past relationships and list the things that you liked and the things you did not like. If he smoked in the house and you hated it, you won’t like it any better the next time. If you love cats and will always want to own one or more, say that you are an animal lover and want indoor pets. Someone who hates cats or is allergic to them is not the guy for you.

Accent the things that make you unique. If you play the piano well, you really want Mr. Right to appreciate it. If you run in marathons, a couch potato is not a good match. If you love art, you really don’t want a man who thinks Picasso is an ice cream flavor.

Describe the things that are vital in your life. If volunteering is the one thing that makes you feel useful and worthwhile, you want someone who would, at the very least, support you if not join you in your volunteer projects. When you get beyond superficial things, you will attract men who share your values.

Invest in your online profile by hiring a professional photographer for your first online picture. This is so important. The picture is the FIRST thing men see. The second thing is that they read what you have written about yourself. Some online dating sites even provide you with a list of photographers in your area that specialize in online dating site photos.

It might take a little coffee or probably a few rounds of beer or any other booze you could get your hands on when it comes to relaxing after a hard day’s work. Well, yeah I’m guilty about that one as well, unless I’m caught dead wearing a lampshade over my head after a few rounds of vodka… half-naked! Okay, bad example and I apologize to everyone reading this after getting nightmares about me in that state of drunken stupor.

Just don’t ask how it happened, please.

But what’s really interesting is that how do people go through the usual part of life when faced with vein-popping stress? I mean, the new age thing like Zen or yoga is one of the good things and it actually works. Is there room for the intellectual side of people who can actually smell the roses-in-a-can while on the move? It kind of had me thinking that there really must be something in this ‘mind-over-matter’ thing.

Humor is indeed the best medicine there is whenever you are. I mean anyone can pay good money to listen to a comedian just to make you wet your pants after laughing so hard. Despite of what’s been happening, and to those who has gone though the ordeal, it’s better to just laugh while facing the troubles with a clear mind than anger with a clouded vision. One of my favorite celebrities of all time may have to be Woody Allen. Now this is one guy who gives you the in-your-face bluntness that he pulls out with gusto, even without even trying. You can talk just about anything with a man, and he’s bound to mock the subject and you’ll end up laughing rather than being upset about it.

Woody Allen has this to say:

1. “Money is better than poverty, if only for financial reasons.” It sounds good to me, I mean the practicality of all things does involve money but it doesn’t have to take an arm and a leg to get it.

2. “I believe there is something out there watching us. Unfortunately, it’s the government.” ‘Nuff said.

3. “There are worse things in life than death. Have you ever spent an evening with an insurance salesman?” This happens to be one of the classic ones. I mean the issue about life’s little problems isn’t all that bad, until ‘he’ shows up.

Sure, relationships can get complicated, or does have its complications that probably any author about relationships is bound to discover it soon. We follow what our heart desires, unless you’re talking about the heart as in the heart that pump blood throughout your body.

4. “Love is the answer, but while you’re waiting for the answer, sex raises some pretty interesting questions.” And if you want more, just keep on asking!

5. “A fast word about oral contraception. I asked a girl to go to bed with me, she said ‘no’.” It sounds, ‘practical’, I think.

And when it comes to everyday life, he really knows how to make the best out of every possible scenario, and it doesn’t involve a lawsuit if he strikes a nerve.

6. “Basically my wife was immature. I’d be at home in the bath and she’d come in and sink my boats.” I never had a boat in my bathtub before. Just staring at it while soaking in hot water makes me seasick already.

7. “I am not afraid of death, I just don’t want to be there when it happens.” If it rains, it pours.

8. “I am thankful for laughter, except when milk comes out of my nose.” It could get worse when you’re guzzling on beer… or mouthwash, and it happened to me once!

9. “If you want to make God laugh, tell him about your plans.” At least he doesn’t smite us with lightning, and I’m thankful for that.

And despite of what may happen to all of us in the next ten, twenty, or even thirty years, I guess we all have to see things in a different kind of light and not just perspective. I can’t seem to imagine life without any piece of wisdom that could guide us. Whether we’re religious or not, it takes more courage to accept your fears and learn how to deal with them is all that matters when it comes to even just getting along.

And to sum things up, here is the last nugget of wisdom to go by… however, whenever, and wherever we may be.

10. “The talent for being happy is appreciating and liking what you have, instead of what you don’t have.”

Ciao!

No more hesitations, this is the moment you have been dreaming of and only you could push it to reality. But, how could you have that dream date? Of course, you have to start from the top. And, that is to ask the person you are interested out on a date. Well, how could you invite a person out? Do you need to be aggressive? Do you need to play safe? Tips to ask someone out would surely be a great help for you.

The following are simple but very essential tips you could lean on in times that you seem to find it hard asking a person for a date. For men, these tips are really great help for you invite that person in your mind.

• Know the right reason or reasons for asking a person out. When you know your purpose, it would surely have the idea of how to express it in a medium that you are most comfortable with.


• What if the person says no? Save that part of you and prepare to whatever the answer of the other person is. Do not take the “no” so heavily. Learn the beauty of grace in such times.


• In order to say well the words you want to express, you may try to do some practicing in order for you to get conditioned of how to say such lines you needed to tell the person you want to be with.


• Be sure that you have the most important details you have for the date in mind. The person might say “yes” and you just do not know where to go, that would be a real “turn off”. As much as possible, be ready with ideas.


• See to it that you know how to answer whenever the person asks you why you are asking her out. You do not have to be a very huge flatterer but you have to make sure that you make the person feel good. This way of showing how much thoughtful you are.


• Never pressure a person to go out with you. This is not healthy and it would even branch out to negative outcomes. Remember not to pressure a person to tell you why it is a “no”.


• Do not stand people up. This means that when you ask a person out, you mean it and you do not leave her just expecting for nothing at all.


• If the person says no, do not be bitter about it. You just have to move on and never treat the person unwell.


• Having some beer just to boost your confidence is a no. It may just push you to worse situations. You have to be naturally confident.


• The more, the merrier but not for a first date. When you are out to ask a person for a date, do not do it when she is with a circle of friends.

These are really useful tips and you have to take note of them, they would surely help you out in maximizing the time you spend with that special person.

When you join an online dating service, you are looking for a girl that you can like…even come to love.  That girl is looking for a guy that SHE can like or even love.  What you aren’t looking for is a girl who would like your best friend or your idea of what the perfect guy looks like or talks like or thinks like.  So, in order to find the right girl for you…and she IS out there…you need to be completely honest with yourself about yourself when writing the online profile, during the dating process and beyond.

The best way to begin writing your profile is to carefully analyze your past relationship (s).  What was right?  What was wrong?  What things really made you like the last girl?  Which didn’t?  Don’t assume that just because you hated that your last girl was so totally self-involved that she couldn’t see anything else, you’ll be able to overlook that quality this time. You won’t.

If you aren’t 6’1” with a six-pack to be proud of, don’t claim to be.  If you are a bar tender, don’t claim to be a lawyer with a six figure income. If you are 40 going on 50, don’t pretend to be 30 something.

Remember, the idea here is to find a girl who will like you exactly like you are. If you have lied in your profile, the first face-to-face meeting will remove all her doubt that you are a liar…and probably a cheat, as well.

Lastly, once you have found a girl that you believe can be the one for you, for goodness sakes, cancel your membership to the online dating service.  After all, you know and she knows that online dating services are intended for those who are looking…not those who have found or been found.

People have taken to online dating like a duck takes to water…because it works…or, at least, it can work.  Women are, in general, terrified of meeting a man that she has been chatting with online.  All they have heard about are the scary things that can happen…and, I must say, they have a right to be careful to the extreme.  That’s not only wise but vital.  So what’s a nice guy to do?  You aren’t a pervert, a sexual predator, or a weirdo.  You are just a nice guy looking for “the” girl for you.

You must be patient.  Don’t press her for personal information like her real name or where she lives.  Keep your conversations light and fun until she feels comfortable talking with you online.  Don’t try to rush her into meeting face-to-face.  She will think you are desperate or a pervert.  Patience.  Patience. Patience.

Be absolutely honest about your physical appearance and job.  A good relationship has never been, and will never be, built on lies and deceit.  Eventually she will find out the truth anyway and there you are back at square one.

A picture really is worth a thousand words.  Post many pictures of yourself doing your everyday activities and make them full body shots, not just head shots.  If you were dating a girl in the real world she wouldn’t just see your head.

Once the discussion has been opened about meeting face-to-face for the first time, suggest that you meet in a very public place, during daylight hours  and that she bring a friend with her.  After all, you have nothing to hide.  You’ve told her the truth about yourself and she has already seen a lot of pictures of you.  The only thing left is to make her feel safe meeting you.

There are some things that women should never do while engaged in an online relationship with a man.  These things are certain to put a quick and final end to any further communications with him.

While chatting online or by email do not write your life story.  His eyes will glaze over and he will fall out of his chair.  Keep it short and sweet until he asks for details…then provide them slowly and only answer the questions he asks.  For instance:  If he asks how many siblings you have, he is NOT asking for the details of your interaction with them.  He really just wants to know how many you have. Say you have 2 (or whatever is true) and then ask how many he has.  For every question he asks you, you should ask one of him.   Nothing turns a man off like a long- winded woman who just doesn’t know when to shut up or how to listen.

Never, ever, EVER lie.  I really believe that lies will catch up with you sooner or later.  Many women (and men) lie about their age, marital status, employment, height, weight and a host of other things in their online profiles.  That is a huge mistake.  If you find a man who you are really interested in, he will find out you lied and there goes any possibility of the relationship progressing.  So, just be honest.  There is someone out there who will like you…even come to love you…for exactly the person you are.

Don’t be too eager.  It makes you look desperate and it really puts a man off.  They are first and foremost conquerors and if getting the person of their desires to like them too is just too easy, they will quickly lose interest.  I don’t mean play “hard-to-get”.  I mean, don’t push for a face-to-face meeting.  Don’t email them or IM them too frequently.  Play it safe and play it cool.